Not Everyone Wants to Hear Your Bitching and Moaning

So what I've learned in the past few days is that everyone has a different tolerance level and ability to deal with the crappy situation that is listening to your infertile friend (the same one you've been listening for the last two years) crying because she knows she's going to lose a pregnancy before she actually does. I've found the reaction I appreciate most is some variation of a simple, "I'm sorry." That sucks. It's not fair. It shouldn't have happened.

The weirdest reaction I got made me think I was really wallowing in my own sadness way too much. I emailed a friend I hadn't spoken to in awhile and explained what had happened with the IVF and getting pregnant but it not being viable. Granted I was feeling a little sorry for myself, so maybe I droned on a bit, and I hadn't told her the whole story about how many eggs there were and how many frozen and the egg retrieval, so I shared all that. And she wrote back, "I hope you get pregnant soon!"

Huh? I guess she's a little tired of sorting her way through my pit of despair. Because I felt like I'd been pretty clear that yeah, I am pregnant, like, right now.

This tells me that clearly (1) I need to stop blabbing to everyone I know about this process, if I'm not ready to hear their honest reactions, and (2) I am complaining so much that people are literally tuning me out so much so that they don't read "I'm pregnant" when it's written right there, in front of them, on paper.